social emotional learning skills

We don’t learn from experience. We learn from reflecting on experience. –John Dewey

How to teach social emotional learning

To teach social-emotional skills, educators and parents need to build in time for children to imagine, experiment, and reflect on their experiences and choices, just like any other subject matter. This includes:

  • Discussing conflicts and trying out different ways to resolve them
  • Naming and being with feelings/emotions inside oneself & expressed by others
  • Playing with how to manage big emotions and have compassion for self & others
  • Experimenting with sharing, negotiation & collaboration
  • Practicing how to be neutral and curious enough to really let in the thoughts, beliefs and values of others without having to defend your own
  • Reflecting on the results and feelings from all of the above before, during & after

Being a Mindful Model

To learn social-emotional skills, young children must be safe and encouraged to explore, make mistakes, and viscerally feel. They need a safe, empathetic, and playful environment that provides them with strategies, tools, and reflection around the development of self & emotional awareness, self-care & regulation, social awareness, empathy, and cooperation. You, teacher or parent, make this possible by being a mindful model & compassionate mirror:

  • Emotionally honest, self-regulating, available, curious, and responsive
  • Clear with expectations and guidelines. Consistent with appropriate consequences.
  • Calm when angry. Caring when frustrated. Compassionate with everyone including yourself.
  • Supportive with instruction & acknowledging of efforts. Never mock or shame.
  • Give choices and respect wishes. Reflect on results. Don’t micro-manage.
  • Ask questions that help children solve problems and self-regulate on their own.
  • Be culturally aware and respectful.

The Movement & Mindfulness Curriculum gives you everything you need to teach SEL and fulfill most other standards.

Practicing meditation enhances your ability to be the mindful model & compassionate mirror. When you practice focusing your attention, rather than letting it jump around, you move into in your higher neocortex brain and your para-sympathetic (rest and digest) nervous system, and out of your lower survival, automatic brain and sympathetic (fight or flight) nervous system. You reset your mind-body into an optimal state.

Most of us are programmed to do, act, accomplish. We do not value being, reflecting, processing. Even in the face of all the research that tells us the value of mindfulness practices, it’s hard for most of us to choose to take the time. We have too many things to do! But if you want to improve your capacity to teach SEL, it’s a requirement.

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